tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743841912028246535.post9127252833629231322..comments2023-10-10T06:48:40.299-03:00Comments on the feminist librarian: grown-ups can say "no" too: on consent, touch, and children in public spacesannajcookhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17573723390785613915noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743841912028246535.post-6722197242499131732010-08-12T23:42:48.545-03:002010-08-12T23:42:48.545-03:00Giving them the knowledge that they have that agen...<i>Giving them the knowledge that they have that agency -- the agency to respond to the needs of others with care, and to have their needs met with equal respect -- is a powerful feminist act.</i> <br /><br />Hi there! I hopped on over from the blog that inspired this post, and I wanted to agree with what you said. I try to keep in mind (although it tends to fade from my consciousness in the day-to-day) that I'm training my two daughters what a woman can be (although of course I'm far from the only depiction). And one of the things I firmly believe people--including, and maybe especially, children--should have is dominion over their own bodies. In fact, due to my own issues (I have some "special needs" ;-) ) I detest being touched on my face, which is of course a main target for kids. When I was a young parent I didn't say anything, but gritted my teeth and bore it. Now, though, I've come to feel that not exercising my right to choose that sort of interaction for myself, and a calm, "Please don't touch my face; Mommy really doesn't like that," is far more conducive to a harmonious co-existence. :-)<br /><br />Anyway, sorry to type a novel, but I just wanted to express my appreciation of what you said, both over there and here too.schoolofmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12005236946662946331noreply@blogger.com